In our opinion at AM&T, Beauty Pageants are an excellent arena for small children and teens to gain poise and stage presence and increase their self-confidence. Pageants are also perfect to teach children to clap for one another, show support, and always be the first to congratulate the winners. Those are the lessons I learned during the many years my sister and I both competed in pageants.
Three weeks ago, we were at a pageant and the contestants were not permitted to wear typical pageant hair and pageant makeup. This event is referred to as a Natural Pageant. The contestants were required to wear jeans and the pageant furnished the T-shirt so all contestants were dressed the same. There were over 50 contestants in the pageant and it was a great experience for all. After the pageant, everyone congratulated one another and it was such a positive afternoon. A modeling and talent scout from Orlando was also in attendance and served on the judge's panel. It was an incredible event.
This weekend...keep in mind...three weeks later...we were at another pageant and the contestants were permitted to wear pageant hair and have pageant makeup. This event is referred to as a Semi-Glitz or Glitz Pageant. This pageant was benefiting a cancer foundation. As soon as one set of parents arrived...the trouble began immediately. We saw everything from asking who was in their category to leaning so far out into the audience to see who the judges were that they almost fell onto to the stage. This set of parents and grandparents acted just like the ones you all love to watch on TLC and the WE channel. It was fabulous reality tv in the making.
Afterwards, several parents complained because their child did not win, their child did not win Best Smile (really?), and also the judges did not sit right (is there a certain way judges should sit?), did not judge correctly (because their child did not win!) and the judges spoke to each other (gasp)!
Have we forgotten the reason why we encourage competition from sports, to cheerleading, to gymnastics, to pageants? There must be a winner! We must congratulate the winner, learn to lose graciously and move on to the next event. We will not always agree with the outcome of any competition, but complaining is not the answer. Showing such animosity towards others in front of your children is not the answer. Maybe the answer is....pageants are not for you!
Thankfully, the director of the pageant held this weekend has decided to be selective of which applications are accepted to their events from now on. I agree with that stance. "We apologize, but you have been known to create an unhealthy environment at the events you attend so we encourage you to go elsewhere". More pageant directors should be so bold and set an example.
We should encourage girls to enter these competitions to have fun, win or lose graciously, gain self-confidence, meet new people and increase their interview skills. If the parents cannot play nicely, they will have need to find a new playground.